How to deal with back-stabber...

Have you ever facing or knowing or being with a "backstabbers"..? When the time we knew that we have made a wrong choice to be with these kind of people, we will feel regret and a lot of question came into our mind. Is it my fault? Do I annoyed him/her? What make they acted like this..? and etc......

The reality is we can't satisfy everybody to please everybody. Somehow we try to be at their level but we still need to step one step behind to observe this hypocrisy world in front of us. Sometimes we forget and easy to trust people around us but the real is we have to be careful of what we say, the way we react and to be reserved. They will try to find any of our weak point and make us as their jumping stone to be succeed.

Here I would like share 6 ways to deal with the backstabbers:

1. Give yourself time to cool down — Don’t respond in the heat of the moment
2. Look at the situation from every angle. What were your colleague’s intentions? Did you play a role in the problem?
3. Chat in person, if possible. E-mailing about a sensitive situation can lead to misinterpretation.
4. Explain the impact. Rather than hurling accusations, calmly explain how your colleague’s actions made you feel.
5. Listen actively. Pay close attention to what your coworker has to say. Even if you disagree, you’ll get a better sense of how that person thinks, which can help you predict future behavior.
6. Know when to get help. Immediately alert your manager to situations that appear serious.

Hope you guys, be careful to those who had potential to stab you from behind. And remind to ourselves not to be one of the back stab person. It is not wrong to be paranoid but... yeahhh... all things do have limitation.

Have a great day..

Neil...